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Engagement season lasts from November to February, but like the diamond on a bad ring, the sting of rejection lasts forever. Here's how to know if it's meant to be. We were, generally, conflict-free. So I immediately said yes. And the moment I accepted, I felt a queasy rush of existential dread wash over me, a sinking feeling that made me want to retch. I realized I harbored serious concerns about his ability to grow up, save money, act like an adult and consider purchasing real plants over the fake ficus he enjoyed so much.
It was a valid relationship, but one I had outgrown.
Still, it took eight years and that proposal to know it. We broke up six months later. Then, a few years later, I got married.
Which is why you should consider a few things before you ask your partner to marry you, and a few more things before saying yes. Men and women can both succumb to this pressure, but men tend to have a bit of a reputation for stumbling into the pressure of generic milestones with blinders on. The next woman they pick up, boom. Make sure you like being with her. The sex is great. You enjoy your activities. You actually like her as much as you love her.
You know how you both feel about children, finances and division of domestic labor. Most of the rejected proposal stories floating around involve men getting dumped when they propose because they obviously had no idea how bad the relationship really was, or how the woman actually felt.
This is a critical waiting period. In other words, I hope to God you have fought like hell at least once. I hope to God you do not fight like hell constantly. You want the conflict porridge that Goldilocks chose. Often they resolve it by revisiting the idea of marriage at some point in the future, but not without him getting rejected first. This is entirely preventable.
Does she swoon a little when a friend gets engaged? Are you attending more and more weddings together where she seems a little misty eyed or hopeful? Remember, you want the diamond to last forever, not the story of your public humiliation, embalmed in viral meme juice for eternity.
Tracy Moore is a staff writer at MEL. Formerly at Jezebel. The more traditional, romantic Charlotte says marriage is fate. Make Sure She Thinks Your Relationship Is Actually Stable Most of the rejected proposal stories floating around involve men getting dumped when they propose because they obviously had no idea how bad the relationship really was, or how the woman actually felt. More Stories from MEL.How to ask your gf to marry you
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