I hate the guy my mom is dating

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Finding someone you love who loves you in return can be difficult. Then learning how to deal with conflicts within a relationship can be painful, as well. But there is an entire additional level of stress when, for some reason, you discover your parent s disapprove of the person you are dating.

Having secrets and lies between you and your parents ruins trust and causes needless stress and drama which will affect your self-esteem, grades, and even your other friends. It is worth pushing pause on your anger and emotions and considering whether your parents may be right.

Parents remember their own good and bad choices while dating. They just want you to be protected from bad consequences which could affect the rest of your life. The fact of the matter is, most people spend very little time researching and getting to know the other person before they start dating them.

They just jump into the relationship. They have fears of unwanted pregnancy, date rape, drug use, physical abuseor simply having their children get a needless and unnecessary broken heart. They also said he pushed me around too much. So I thought about what they said and talked to more people. The more people I talked to, nobody wanted us together. Solomon, the man God blessed with the greatest wisdom in the Bible, said something very similar. Be wise here. Never argue with them about it.

That never works. It only shows them you are too immature to be in the relationship they are so worried about. They will appreciate your desire to learn from their wisdom and respect their point of view. Are you willing to settle for someone who might be harmful to you in the long run, just because they appear to show interest in you in the short term?

Your parents can help you answer that question without all the emotional fog you are experiencing. Someone who makes you a better person.

If they observe that you are often sad or hurt, those are red flags for them. They will also appreciate someone who cares enough for you that they are willing to make an effort to get along with them. The whole point of dating and such is usually not always to find and start your OWN family. My parents only bothered to get to know the favorite sisters bfs…but never mine. Still to this day. My exes mother was the same. No one is ever good enough for him. Well, You describe perfect and reasonable parents here but not all of them are like that.

I am grown up now, 41,but I had trouble with my parents accepting my boyfriends during whole life. Reasons for them to forbid the relationships varied from case to case but one thing was in common: they never really met my boyfriends and were not interested in any of them as a person. They never wanted to meet them. They would just assume if he is or is not right for me.

And yes, because of that, I lied to them my whole life. In the end i would just not talk about it. They never asked me: Are you happy? Do you love him? Does he love you? Does he treat you right? If for any reason they thought it is not the time for me to be in relationship have to study, I am too young, what if i get pregnant, what will people say or they thought he is not right i repeat: they never met them.

Unless i forced it and then they made it very uncomfortable. We never managed to have normal open conversation because it would just be a conversation where they are angry with me and want me to stop dating that guy. We have to talk. Now, If you are in a relationship with him, you and I will now have the biggest fight ever.

I said no, i am not dating him. And i was. And i still am. She only cared about the fact that he was divorced. That is all. So I have to disagree about some things here: 1. It is not always easy to openly talk to them. Your article is just…a situation in perfect conditions. Life usually is not perfect and it is hard to find common language. Some of us, never really manage. Omg this was my mother when i was a teenager. I had boyfriends anyway, yet somehow remained a virgin until My desire not to have kids was stronger than anything, and the boy never seemed to have a condom.

Moral of the story? Parents may have more life experience, but it would serve them well to listen to their kids — sometimes the kid is wiser than they think. Why should I put up with more bs from them just because were related. Should she have not gone to that party?

I move to get out of her sight, and the grandma gets angry with my gf when she follows. A boy told me he luv me even if i don expect it so i tod my mom he his my frd she said i shuld not av a frd who is a boy. These tips are helpful. Nothing is better than having a harmonious relationship with everyone.

I am Actually just wanted to express in comment since I am facing difficulties in forgetting the person and trying my best to accept. I probably need at least someone to hear me out. The main issue of disapproval was because of religion, culture and nationality differences. He is a good and a religious person. Despite our differences, I was happy to learn something new each time. It was indeed a sincere relationship.

He reminded me of something I have forgotten in life and taught me the meaning of happiness. I truly appreciate his presence. Due to both of our parents trying to uphold their traditional values, we were not allowed to continue our relationship. It saddens me because he is the person I often express my thoughts to despite the differences in mentality between the two of us, he always remained calm and gave me advices although I am often very emotional.

But he could tolerate with my attitude and I could too. Till this very day we remained friends but, sometimes i caught myself thinking how much I love that person. The saddest part is that I will be moving to another country very soon and I will no longer be able to see him anymore.

Can anyone suggest me on ways to forget that person? Hi Liv. The best way to stop thinking about one thing is to fill your mind with something else. Whenever he came to mind, I would pray and bring it up to God and ask Him to help me surrender my feelings to Him.

God wants to guide you and give you joy. It might be a process, but He is on your side and desires to help you find contentment in Him and His future plans for you.

Blessings : thanks for sharing. Save my name,and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Life is Messy. And without support, many lose hope that things will ever get better. We want you to know that you are NOT alone.

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Comments The whole point of dating and such is usually not always to find and start your OWN family. Are You Afraid to Be Single? Friends with Benefits. Sex and Dating — Frequently Asked Questions. TheHopeLine Founded over 25 years ago by youth speaker and radio host, Dawson McAllister, we have heard the struggles people face and learned how to offer life-changing support.

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